Let's face it--there's nothing more frustrating than dealing with social or performance anxiety, only to feel like you're alone with this problem and never actually know where to turn to get help. And there's nothing more disheartening than to try and reach out for help--only to feel too ashamed or have your problems minimized.
You know that you should be facing your fears and taking action. Maybe you've even tried reading some self-help books, doing some deep breathing exercises, or forcing yourself to do the things that scare you.
Maybe you weren't sure which self-help books could help you. Or maybe you managed to calm yourself when you were alone, but as soon as you faced a social or performance situation, you were right back to square one. Maybe you forced yourself to leave the house, go to a party, or even give that speech or presentation, and it was still an utter disaster. Maybe people keep telling you to just get it together and face your fears, but you've been doing that and nothing is getting better.
Other people make it look easy. But for you, it's been anything but. Or maybe you thought that the hard part was going to be finally getting your physical symptoms of anxiety under control, but as it turns out, that was only just the beginning. And now you feel like you must be missing something.
You're not alone. Most people with social or performance anxiety feel this way.
The truth is that feeling at ease socially is a game-changer, one that will allow you to face situations with confidence, talk easily to people you meet, and even perform in front of an audience.
The problem? Bad advice that's geared to regular anxiety (not social anxiety), people telling you it's all in your head, and constantly feeling like you don't measure up often make trying to overcome your fears feel like more trouble than it's worth.